Friday, October 26, 2007

The Deceptive Practices of Love (Article)

How do you overcome the betrayal of infidelity? There is no right or wrong answer, because the decision is solely yours to make. Once coming to terms with the fact that “he cheated on me” or in some cases she, some people choose to leave after a loved one has been unfaithful. Others, in an effort to salvage the relationship, stay. Many factors must be considered before throwing in the towel or hanging on in there.

Deciding what to do when your world seems to be falling apart is difficult to do. In the midst of your broken heart, here are some sensible questions you can ask yourself. Are there children involved? If so, how will the situation affect them one way or another? If you decide to remain in the relationship, will you be able to protect the children from arguments or a loveless relationship? On the contrary, if you end the relationship, are you prepared emotionally, spiritually, and financially?

Remaining in a relationship once the covenant has been desecrated takes courage and commitment. Inexorably you will question your decision. However, there are ways to restore trust. The person who committed the transgression must be willing to deal with the consequences of his or her actions. For example, they may be required to give up some of their freedom and privacy so that you can feel more secure. The injured party may request access to cell phones, pagers, e-mails, and whereabouts. And the offending party must be prepared to accommodate those requests in order to re-establish trust and restore the relationship.

The choice to end a relationship due to infidelity is difficult. As a result of the break-up, depression, anxiety, stress, and financial hardships are very real possible outcomes. However, you can bounce back. Regardless of what you decide to do, the road to recovery will be a rocky one. Don’t be afraid to seek counseling from a trained professional. Counseling is not a sign of weakness or failure, because maintaining your well-being is important. Dealing with your emotions honestly is therapeutic in itself. You must acknowledge your feelings, because they are valid. Then you must make a concerted effort to forgive the past, remain faithful in the present, and have a fruitful future.

Copywritten by Dwan Abrams

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